The Mrs is Getting Fit

I know it’s been a while since I have posted anything here, but I decided to start writing again because my wife has been on a bit of a fitness kick lately.  She’s always been beautiful to me, of course, but being here in the West is a little different.  She told me that even though she was not overweight she was feeling lethargic and just didn’t have much energy.

This meant it was time to look into some different fitness programs for her.  I’ve always loved going to the gym, but I don’t really know anything about training women.  I know that women can do many of the same exercises men can, but I really didn’t know what to tell her in terms of program design, etc.

We thought about hiring a personal trainer for her, but those don’t come cheap.  I don’t mind spending money on her, but I was wondering if there was a more cost-effective way of teaching her to train.

My wife is very studious, so I had a feeling she could follow one of those internet programs.  I wasn’t really sure which way to go.  I looked into a program by Kayla Itsines, but it, too, seemed a little bit pricey to me.  We decided to keep looking around to see what else was out there.

That’s when I found this complete review of Jen Ferruggia’s Bikini Body Workouts.  I wasn’t 100% sure at first, but some of the before and after pictures made me think it could be really effective.  This photo in particular impressed me:


The “before” picture kind of reminded me of my wife: not fat at all (weight loss was not really the goal).  But someone who wanted to “tone up” a bit.

I have to say we were really pleased with this program.  My wife studied over every aspect of the program carefully: she looked at both the diet and exercise components.  The workouts sessions could be done with the equipment that we already have at the gym where we are members.

So she went at it with all-out intensity.  She was training regularly and watching her diet.  She wasn’t having to starve herself, but she was eating a little more lean protein and a little less junk food.  She was really sore for the first couple of weeks because it took her body some time to get used to the training.  But she adapted, and in no time she was feeling like a new woman.

Want to know what else happened?  I started getting in better shape.  I was making better food choices and I was going to the gym with her.  There was no excuse for me not to train when I saw how dedicated she was!  I have lost a few pounds and I look and feel much younger (I have to be able to keep up with my young wife).

Her transformation took about three or four months.  Since then we have both been training regularly and are living a healthier lifestyle.  Bikini Body Workouts was definitely worth the money we paid for it.  You don’t have to go broke to get in shape.  You just need solid information and some basic equipment.

I’m actually thinking about building my own home gym now so we can train here at the house.  I have been checking out Craigslist for good deals on used equipment.  I’m pretty amazed at some of the deals I’ve seen, and I have plenty of room in my garage for the basic stuff I would need.

By the way, here’s a video that goes along with the before-mentioned review:

The Philippines: Love and Second Changes

I would like to share my story and maybe a little bit of advice for guys who are thinking about finding love in Asia.

Before I met my current awesome and beautiful wife I had been through some rough times.

I married my first wife (an American) when I was twenty years old. I thought she was the one for me and we would grow old together. We had a son and he has turned out to be a fine young man. But I can’t say that marriage turned out so well. Not long after my son graduated high school my wife said she wasn’t happy and wanted a divorce. She didn’t really give much explanation other than that. She never said that I was not a good husband or had failed her in some way. She just didn’t want to be with me any more.

A couple of years later I started trying to rebuild my life. I was not really in a hurry to get into the dating scene, but I knew it was either do that or never get married again. I have to say I really struggled with dating women here in the USA. I did meet some nice women, most of whom were divorced like me. I even dated a woman who had become widowed at a relatively young age. But something was just missing. I wanted to find someone who was different than the women I had been meeting.

That’s when I started thinking about marrying a woman from other countries. I decided to do some research online about it. I had heard about guys finding Russian women to marry. I chatted with a few girls from there but I never really built a true connection with any of them. Most of them were not really spiritual.

filipinamodelThen I started researching about women from the Philippines. I found this very helpful blog that helped me stay away from Filipina dating scams and focus my attention on women who were really serious about finding a life partner.

I was really amazed at the Filipinas that I chatted with: most of them were significantly younger than I yet seemed really open to romance with an older man. They also seemed really mature and committed to their families.

I eventually met a young woman named Ella. She was still a student when we first started chatting but she seemed wise beyond her years. She also had dreams and ambitions and was definitely not some party girl.

We chatted for a few months before I got up the nerve (and money) to go visit her. I don’t believe in “love at first sight,” but what we experienced was pretty close to that. Our face-to-face interaction was even better than our internet chats. I knew that I had found a very special young woman and I was so happy. I hated to go back to the USA but I knew I couldn’t stay in the Philippines forever. I asked her to marry me before I left and she accepted my proposal.

The next step was all of the visa processing. It wasn’t too bad but it did require some patience and guidance. Ella’s fiancée visa took about six or seven months to process. The waiting time was not easy for either one of us but we both believe it was worth it. We are both very happy now and have a child together (we may have more some day). All in all I am a very happy man and I’m thankful for getting a second chance at love.